Patton Oswalt's special "Talking For Clapping" was, as are all his works, completely brilliant (and tragically aired the day his wife died). He did a bit during that show about how there are far more LGBT allies in the world than you would think because some sincere people are shunned by that community because they don't know all the proper words and phrases. The people who would hold down the LGBT community, however, know all the proper terms and verbiage.
What made me think of this was a comment I saw from a very rural newspaper's Facebook page and a comment on a story about a federal judge informing our President that his ill-informed, ill-advised transgender ban not only isn't Constitutional, but can't be revised in an effort to continue his war against...well, everyone.
This man is awesome and his opinion should basically be the one that matters because at the end of the day, like Illinois Senator Tammy Duckworth said (and I'm paraphrasing) when they came to rescue her when she had been critically wounded, she didn't care about the gender or orientation of her rescuers.
"You want to spend a few years in the dirt or the desert and risk your life to keep my family and my country safe? Then you've EARNED the goddam surgery...."
Again, not the most scientific or PC way to say it, but it gets the message across, doesn't it?